The thing to remember here is that both the active person and the passive person are dependent on each other. I need you to need me it makes me feel special to be so needed. The ego is enhanced, especially since the passive person worships their symbiotic partner (Ibid). The active, dominant, co-dependent person escapes from the isolation and loneliness by symbiotically making another person part and parcel of himself (or herself, as it were).
I am nothing without you I feel special because you care so much about me. The passive, submissive, dependent person escapes from the unbearable feeling of isolation and loneliness by symbiotically becoming part and parcel of another person who directs, guides, and protects them ( The Art of Loving, 18). There is a passive form of symbiotic union (the submissive, dependent person) and an active form (the dominant, co-dependent person). What I really appreciate about Fromm’s work is the detail with which he describes the dynamic of dependency, or Symbiotic Union. Like Peck, Fromm never actually uses the Greek term, but definitely talks about “Mature Love” in the agapic sense, as a skill that can be taught and developed.
Fromm was a German social psychologist and philosopher who wrote the international bestseller The Art of Loving in 1956. When talking about dependency, my favorite author to reference is Erich Fromm (d. Two people love each other only when they are quite capable of living without each other but choose to live with each other.” ( The Road Less Traveled, 98) “It is a matter of necessity rather than love. Scott Peck discusses the misconception that dependency is love, he describes it as parasitic, and focuses on the lack of freedom. Retelling this story, I feel a little like an audience member in a horror flick, wanting to scream: “RUN!” I need you. When I excitedly told my favorite high school teacher about my new-found sweetheart, I thought his response was rather odd: “Ah, you’ve found yourself a symbiotic partner.” The boyfriend, a biology major, thought for a moment and explained, “Well, symbiosis is a mutually beneficial relationship between a parasite and a host… which is an unusual way of describing our relationship, but they need each other… and so do we.” And I’m pretty sure we felt affirmed by that description of our relationship. It was not only a textbook example of the what-not-to-do insights offered in You’ve Lost That Lovin’ Feeling, but it would serve as my introduction to the dynamic of dependency.
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